“I’ve lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.”

So quipped Mark Twain. Even if you know that what you fear might never happen, do you remain anxious?

If you worry about an event that never happens, you’ve worried for nothing. If the worst does happen, then you have to deal with it twice. Does that knowledge soothe you?

If you’ve done everything you can to resolve the issue and it’s out of your hands, worrying won’t help the resolution to come faster. But does this understanding bring peace?

So what can you do then? 

Keep telling yourself the facts. Prepare for the worst but hope for the best. It’s difficult, because your emotions will keep washing over you. But emotions are changeable as well as powerful. If you control your thoughts, they will start to dominate your emotions. Once you’ve gone through the situation throroughly and the anxiety returns, tell yourself, “No! I’ve dealt with this already. There’s nothing more I can do except wait. Now I’m going to do something else.”

This takes time and determination.

There are also therapies found on the web that pretty much guarantee winning over anxiety. I haven’t tried any of them, but it could be worth it. However, taking control of your thoughts is never wasted effort.